Can You Send Flowers to a Funeral Home or Shiva?

The Short of It

Yes — you can send flowers to a funeral home. Funeral directors receive floral deliveries every day, label each arrangement, and place it for the visitation or service.
Time the delivery to arrive before the visitation or service. If you don't know the schedule, call the funeral home — or call us, and we'll coordinate it for you.
Sympathy flowers usually go to the family's home; larger tribute pieces go to the service. They're two different gestures, and each has its place.
In traditional Jewish mourning, flowers are generally not sent to a funeral or a shiva — food for the family or a charitable donation is the customary gesture. This varies by family and level of observance.
Bottom line: white, classic, and intentional travels beautifully. When you're unsure, call a florist who knows your area — that's exactly what we're here for.

Sending Flowers When Someone Has Died — Start Here

Yes — you can absolutely send flowers to a funeral home, and it's one of the most caring things you can do. Funeral directors receive floral deliveries every day. They label each arrangement, place it for the visitation or service, and make sure the family knows who it came from. At The Flower Bar, our sympathy flower delivery reaches families across Larchmont and Westchester the same day when you order by 3 PM, Monday through Saturday, and we have the address and the timing. Below, we'll walk you through where flowers should go, how the timing works, and one important exception many people don't expect — sending to a Jewish family.

Grief makes people second-guess themselves. You want to do the right thing, and you don't want to intrude. So let's take the guesswork out of it, one question at a time.

Yes, You Can Send Flowers to a Funeral Home

There's no rule against it — in fact, it's expected. Flowers sent to a funeral home are received, labeled, and arranged by the staff for the visitation, wake, or service. According to the Emily Post Institute, there are no rigid rules about timing; the guidance is to get flowers to the bereaved as soon as you can — to the home, the house of worship, or the funeral home in time for the visitation or service.

The one detail worth confirming is when. A funeral home needs your flowers before the doors open for viewing, not during it. If you don't know the service schedule, a quick call to the funeral home will tell you the delivery window — and if you'd rather not make that call yourself, tell us the family's name and the funeral home, and we'll handle the coordination on your behalf. That kind of quiet logistics is part of what you're trusting a real florist to carry for you.

Should Flowers Go to the Home or the Service?

One of the most common questions we get — and the answer shapes everything about the arrangement.

Flowers to the family's home are personal and gentle. They're usually classic and all-white with a few soft accents — something the family lives alongside in a hard week. Flowers to the service are larger and more public: casket and standing sprays, urns and wreaths that hold their own in a big room or a church.

When someone calls us, Nancy reads the message on the card first. The relationship — a colleague, a lifelong friend, a grandchild — tells her how much presence the flowers should have and where they belong.

Nancy's pro tip: for a friend, she'll often send "a dozen white roses with some orchids… that won't get lost in the church" — something with enough presence to hold its place in a large room. Scale matters. A centerpiece meant for a dinner table can disappear at a large service, and the last thing you want is for your gesture to go unseen.

Nancy still remembers a family she's known for more than forty years — blue and white garden roses, sent to the service. "The whole church just felt like it was full of flowers." That's the difference the right size, in the right place, can make.

Sending Flowers to a Shiva or a Jewish Funeral

Here in Westchester — Larchmont, Mamaroneck, Scarsdale, New Rochelle, and the towns around them — we serve a large and long-established Jewish community, and this is where the etiquette shifts in an important way.

In traditional Jewish mourning, flowers are generally not sent to a funeral or to a shiva. As My Jewish Learning explains, sending flowers "is not a customary practice for Jewish mourning." Instead, two gestures carry the meaning that flowers do elsewhere:

Food for the family. During shiva — the seven-day mourning period — the family isn't cooking or entertaining. Easy-to-serve food sent to the shiva house is one of the most valued and traditional ways to show you care.
A charitable donation (tzedakah). Many people make a gift to a charity in memory of the person who died, and bring an acknowledgment of that donation to the shiva. It's a deeply meaningful way to honor a life.

That said, this varies by family and by level of observance. A less traditional or Reform family may warmly welcome flowers, and an arrangement sent to the home after the shiva period has ended can be a beautiful, appropriate gesture of continued care. When a family requests "in lieu of flowers, donations to…," follow their wishes exactly — that request is itself a form of guidance.

These are general customs, not rules that hold for every family. If you're genuinely unsure what a particular family would prefer, the kindest thing you can do is ask a close friend or relative of the family — or call a florist who knows the customs of your area. We're always glad to talk it through so your gesture lands the way you intend it to.

What Flowers Suit a Funeral or Sympathy Arrangement

When flowers are the right gesture, restraint is the whole art. Sympathy work leans white and classic — white roses, orchids, and soft greenery that reads as calm rather than celebratory.

A few things worth knowing from the workroom:

Lilies need lead time. They arrive tight and closed, and they need days to open into those broad, fragrant blooms. If someone orders lilies the morning of a service, they may still be buds. This is one reason to order sympathy flowers a little ahead when you can.
Japanese chrysanthemums are a quiet upgrade. Not the dense pom-pom mums you might picture — these open wide and soft. As Nancy puts it, "They almost look like dahlias." They bring texture to an all-white arrangement without shouting.
Skip anything loud. Bright, festive palettes belong to birthdays and celebrations. For sympathy, let the flowers whisper.

A note on budget: funeral flowers are a budget decision as much as a design one. Casket and standing sprays, urns and wreaths can be pricey because of their size — so it's worth deciding what you want to spend before you decide what to send.

If you want help matching flowers to a specific relationship, our guide on what to write in a sympathy card and our piece on sympathy flower meanings both walk through the details with care.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can you send flowers to a funeral home?

Yes. You can send flowers directly to a funeral home, and staff will receive, label, and place them for the visitation or service. The key is timing — aim to have the flowers arrive before the viewing begins. If you don't know the schedule, call the funeral home, or ask your florist to coordinate the delivery window for you.

Should you send flowers to a shiva or a Jewish funeral?

In traditional Jewish mourning, flowers are generally not sent to a funeral or shiva. The customary gestures are sending food to the mourning family or making a charitable donation in memory of the person who died. Practices vary by family and level of observance, so when a family shares specific wishes — including "in lieu of flowers" — follow them, and ask a close relative if you're unsure.

Is it better to send flowers to the funeral home or the family's home?

Both are appropriate, and they serve different purposes. Larger tribute pieces — casket and standing sprays, urns and wreaths — go to the service. Personal, all-white arrangements are usually sent to the family's home, where they offer quiet comfort through a difficult week. Some close friends also send flowers to the home in the weeks after the service.

What flowers are best for a funeral or sympathy arrangement?

White and classic travels best: white roses, orchids, and soft greenery. Lilies are traditional but need lead time to open, so order a little ahead when you can. Japanese chrysanthemums add gentle texture without looking festive. Avoid bright, celebratory palettes for sympathy.

Does The Flower Bar deliver sympathy flowers in Westchester?

Yes. The Flower Bar is a boutique florist at 11 Addison Street, Larchmont, NY 10538, open Monday through Saturday, 9 AM to 5 PM. We hand-deliver sympathy flowers across Larchmont, Westchester County, lower Fairfield County in Connecticut, and NYC — same day when you order by 3 PM, Monday through Saturday, and we have the details in time. Call us at (914) 834-4900 and we'll guide you through it.

Sending Sympathy Flowers in Larchmont and Westchester

When someone you care about is grieving, the smallest, most thoughtful gesture carries real weight. Sending flowers to a funeral home is not only allowed — it's a gift the family will remember. Getting the timing and the placement right, and knowing when flowers aren't the tradition at all, comes down to asking the right questions. That's the part we're here to carry with you.

The Flower Bar is rooted in Larchmont and serves families across Westchester County, lower Fairfield County and NYC with hand-crafted, hand-delivered arrangements chosen for the moment they're meant to hold. If you'd like a caring eye on your order, browse our sympathy flower arrangements in Westchester, or call us at (914) 834-4900 and we'll help you say exactly what you mean to say.